Sexual Health Week 2016 – Spice up your sex life

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Spice up your sex life!

 

When we talk about spicing up your sex life the saying brought to us by the Spice Girls in the 1990s “zig-a-zig-ah” comes to mind.

 

Whether you are in a monogamous or polyamorous relationship; open or closed relationship; a couple or single; lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or straight. The question that comes up is how does one spice up their sex life!

 

Often in sexual health promotion we focus on people getting tested and using protection. We give little time or thought about how to get the best from sex in a safe and sane way. In this blog I will be providing some top tips on spicing up your sex life.

 

To have good sex it takes all partners involved, sometimes we become lazy or just put up with mediocre sex to get a quick fix. Often it is because we are not communicating our sexual needs with our partner(s) this is when life and sex can get very dull.

 

So here are 5 top tips:

Communication: Making a list or discussing with your sexual partner(s) things you are willing to try can be a very creative way of exploring new opportunities to add to your sex life.

Sex toys: Going shopping with your sexual partner(s) can add to the excitement of that sexual encounter. Looking around shops and discussing with each other what you might like to try out together may be a good way of making sex fun and something to look.

Tantra: Ashley Thirleby in her book Tantra: The Key to Sexual Powers says: “Tantric sex is the ancient key to sexual pleasure and psychic power attained through a set of rituals.” Tantric sex can support you to reach more heightened sexual pleasure. By tapping into sexual energy it is known that it can create positive energy to use in other areas of your life.

Role Play: Wearing different costumes, accessories, having different scenarios, different voices or creating fantasy characters can all add some fun to the sex your having. As long as these fantasies are negotiated and reach their natural end at the end of the sexual experience.

Have Fun: As adults we sometimes forget about the spontaneity we had as children. Be playful and silly, laugh, perhaps be sensual, touch and tickle. Allow yourself to get lost in the moment.

 

If you have tried all the above and more; then it may be time to gain support from a Sex Therapist that will be able to explore with you what is getting in the way of you having great sex and provide you some further suggestions to improve your sex life. As much as it is important to look after one’s sexual health – sex should also be fun and pleasurable!

Peer Mentoring Coordinator, Bimingham LGBT

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