Domestic violence

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If you or someone you know would like to access support in relation to domestic violence then please contact us on 0121 643 0821. If you are at immediate risk of harm then please dial 999

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Domestic violence


Our Independent Domestic Violence Advocate (IDVA) service provides support to LGBT people in Birmingham and across the West Midlands, who are experiencing abuse from partners, ex-partners and family members. We also support LGBT people who are experiencing, or are at risk of honour based violence, forced marriage and female genital mutilation.

We provide a safe and supportive environment where you can discuss the issues you have been experiencing. We don’t apply pressure, or tell people which decisions to make. We try to empower people to make informed decisions about their situation. We also provide crisis intervention, advocacy, safety planning, emotional and practical support.

No one should live in fear of the person they love. If you recognise yourself, or someone you know as experiencing abuse, please get in touch with us by completing the form on the Contact page on our website, or by calling us on 0121 643 0821, or emailing

The Rainbow Project

We have also launched the Rainbow Project, which is a group work programme for Lesbian, Bisexual and Trans (LBT) women who are experiencing, or have experienced domestic abuse. This is an 8 week programme and specific to the needs of LBT women.

If you are interested in attending the Rainbow Project programme, please get in touch with the IDVA team by calling us on 0121 643 0821 or emailing us

For LGBT support, call Switchboard on 0300 330 0630.
Support is also available through the 24hr National DV helpline on 0808 2000 247.
In an emergency, please call 999.

How Do I Know If I’m In An Abusive Relationship?

Are you in a relationship with someone who:

  • Isolates you from friends and family
  • Isolates you from the LGBT+ Community
  • Plays mind games
  • Controls your finances
  • Withholds your medication from you (including hormone therapy)
  • Is excessively jealous and controlling
  • Prevents you from expressing your gender identity
  • Puts you down and makes you feel bad about yourself
  • Manipulates you
  • Constantly checks up on you
  • Damages your property
  • Threatens to “”out”” you
  • Blames you for abusive behaviour
  • Hits, shoves or pushes you
  • Threatens you with weapons
  • Forces you to have sex or engage in Chemsex
  • Prevents you from practicing safer sex
  • Forces you to take drugs and alcohol.
  • Blames alcohol or drugs for their behaviour
  • Threatens to tell social services you are a bad parent, or threatens to withhold contact with your children
  • Tells you that you are not really Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender or Queer
  • Harasses you at work or college
  • Stalks you and tracks where you go
  • Tells you this is normal in same sex relationships
  • Threatens to kill themselves if you leave them



If your partner, ex-partner or family member has assaulted you, or you are afraid for your own or others’ safety, in an emergency, always ring 999.

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